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Getting Out of My Head


If you’re like me, you live in your head most of the time.

Even if your head is a pleasant place to spend a lot of time in, it’s healthy to “get out of your head” once in a while. Daily, actually. If you are someone who suffers from clinical depression, then getting out of your head in a positive way is a crucial part of your self-care regimen.

You get out of your head by getting grounded in your body.

That’s what usually works for me, and I should probably do more of this (but admittedly, I don’t.)

I hate exercising, but I tend to enjoy the activity more if I were exercising in a group (like a class), or taking a martial arts class because there is structure in the activity. Here, the atmosphere and culture of the environment is CRUCIAL, because if you have a poorly managed environment, you’d spend more time analyzing the leadership problems of the class than participating.

I hate gardening, but I don’t mind doing arts and crafts with my little boy, and it becomes a way for me to work with my hands, participate with another person and at the same time, spend quality time with that person.

I enjoy music, and wish I could play an instrument; it would be a way for me to use a different way to “think” with my brain. Since I don’t, I will sing loudly and dance (I do this with my little boy).

I’m too fidgety to meditate, even though at one point I was able to build up my patience and tolerance for stillness to 30 minutes.

I find taking a walk or even a short run can do wonders for my mind.

I don’t recommend this, but I do it sometimes, and it works (therefore, easily abused) — I eat. The key here is to eat very stimulating and richly seasoned foods. Bland foods don’t cut it. If the food were spicy enough and rich enough, I’d eat less of it and be satisfied.

I’m an introvert, so one of the ways I can get out of my head is by forcing myself to talk to someone else on the phone or preferably in person. Sometimes getting into someone else’s head helps get me out of my own.

How do YOU get out of your head?

Written by Jane Chin

October 25th, 2011 at 7:04 pm

Posted in Mental Health

  • Charles Barnes

    I don’t, I really feel that I am not ripe, or something. My wishes and dreams I have let go to the wayside and now age has stomped them flat, so what else more is there?? I feel better inside here(head) when I don’t have to face people and deal with the silly way I compare myself to others. Made me tear up when the article said”I do this with my boy” Am happy for you, but it stings deeply inside of me, not through jealousy, is the sense of my failness that hurts. Loneliness, has driven me in my head and has now taken the key and left me here,which is where I wanted to be ironically, but sad. Maybe I can find an activity that will jimmy this lock, simply writing these words has created a pinhole of light it feels. Thank you and best wishes to you and yours.

  • I’m sorry that you feel age has stomped flat your dreams and wishes, Charles. If there is a safe place inside your head, there is nothing wrong in seeking safety. But if there are many hostile pockets of thoughts in your head (I have a few of these in my own head), that is when “getting out of your head” may offer a temporary sojourn from this hostility.

    You know… there was a time when I did not have my little boy to dance with, and when I did not have a life partner to dance with… I didn’t have friends to dance with — during that time, I had turned up the music and danced with myself. We can be good friends to ourselves.

    You’re in my thoughts.

  • Mikael

    I can’t do this. I’ve been obsessive since i was 12 or so. No one did anything about it. I do have OCD in the typical sense that i need to repeat certain actions. I’m also obsessive in the sense that i cannot put my mind to rest because of severe angst. I can’t stop focusing on horrible things for even small periods of time. An obsession i’ve had since i was 17 (19 now), is that i’m doomed to be stupid because of my education. I got great grade in High school, but i still feel horribly stupid. I got straight A’s in my first year in college, but could not accept this as a victory because i’m obsessed with the idea that i chose the wrong college. Currently it seems that i have to take leave for a term from college because of depression. This constant repetition of angsty thoughts is driving me suicidal. I have a obsession with that the past should have been different, so that i would have had a better present

  • Mikael

    Also, my depression drains a lot of energy, so i feel even more stupid, and the problem get’s even worse.

    I won’t accomplish