Ask me in 1998 when I first started this website if I’d ever think the word “joy” would appear anywhere remotely near my name, and I’d laugh out loud. Then I’d immediately burst into tears, since at the time I was suffering from clinical depression, and I’d cry more often than I’d smile or laugh [...]
Abuse and Emotional Abuse
Shame and humiliation are powerful weapons in emotional abuse and the control of the will of a human being. Once a person has internalized that shame and humiliation and begins to believe it, that person will then continue to perpetrate shame and humiliation unto himself and becomes his own abuser. The victim also becomes addicted [...]
Amy Chua is right about this form of parenting when you want to create a society that: 1) considers physical, mental, and emotional coercion as the only form of gaining compliance from a human being 2) considers outward success based on a standard of “winning” and “better than” as the only form of success 3) [...]
I actually wrote this article in 2006 when I titled it, “An Asian Adult Child’s Guide to Reclaiming Your Own Mind”. In light of the recent “Chinese Mothers are Superior” article, I thought I’d share how ANY adult children who have been programmed for self-hatred can begin to reclaim themselves as human beings. If you [...]
Why Chinese Mothers are Superior, Wall street journal saturday edition. The marketing tactic that aims to generate publicity for Amy Chua’s book, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. Well, it sure worked! A ton of blog responses and over 2000 comments on WSJ at this point. OMG! This was even hotter than the “Motrin Mom” [...]
OK, so yes, Chinese parents seem to produce obedient children who excel in academics. But I still don’t know why this model of beating or brainwashing their kids into submission is being touted as if it were the superior form of parenting. Maybe western or westernized parents do care a bit too much about their [...]
Sometimes I get reader emails about toxic families and emotional abuse related questions. Most of the time these are questions relating to ways of “breaking free” from those psychological chains. I think many of my site visitors can benefit from my answers, and to protect the askers’ identities I will only post my answers. I [...]
